My very most popular post is my list of Tips and Tricks People Forget to Tell New Moms. So I’m super excited to bring you even more things I’ve learned the hard way that people should tell first time moms and dads!
These are spot on! Why didn’t anyone tell me these things with my first baby? Helpful things to know as a first time mom (or dad).
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After that first post of things no one tells new moms I had lots of readers share the other things they wish someone had told them and in my own daily life I kept finding myself thinking I should have put this on the list. So in no particular order here are More helpful tidbits I wish someone had told me as a new mom.
1. EVERYTHING is a Phase
I didn’t get this when I wrote my first list. I was so stressed about sleep. Once we figured out night time sleep I was stressed that Teddy wasn’t napping on his own, I wasn’t getting any of it and. But since then I’ve realized that IT IS ALL A PHASE. Like really. They grow up so fast and the things we’re tempted to agonize about will be over before long. Why was I so concerned about holding my baby for nap? My days of holding a baby (or kid now) who will let me hold him are numbered. When they are toddlers and babies things change so fast. You can stress about figuring stuff out and get things down but soon after you do, things will be completely different so honestly try not to stress that much.
Great list of strange and helpful things no one thinks to tell new moms and dads.
( not a sticker but this was about the age when I tried the “sticker fun”).
2. Babies Eat Stickers.
When Teddy was smaller I thought he ‘d have fun with stickers so I stuck a few on him only to find him trying to shove them into his mouth. What!? That’s like a thing? I was totally paying attention so Teddy wasn’t in any real danger since I snatched them away before he got them in his mouth.
3. Balloons are Really Dangerous for Babies.
Speaking of trying to eat things. Let’s talk about balloons. For the record I knew this one but I’ve been shocked at the number of people I’ve met who don’t know that balloons are very dangerous to babies and toddlers or who tried to give my baby a balloon but not watch him with it or were about to let him chew and try on one. Not counting food, balloons are the most common cause of choking death in babies. The flimsy latex contours to the airway and blocks it off. Don’t let babies have balloon unless you can give them 100% of your attention. And by all means do not let them put balloons (inflated or deflated whether waiting to be blown up or popped) in their mouths. Since most babies put everything in their mouths I vote to keep them completely away from their faces and in your own hands just to be on the safe side.
4. Try and Read All the Books While You’re Pregnant.
This relates to # 1. Everything is a phase and it moves so fast. You go from one thing to another and you ‘d think you ‘d have time to research your parenting options and decide how you feel about different things but you guys it all happens so fast and if you’re like most people you won’t be getting much sleep so your brain isn’t going to be working. I WISH that I had read a few parenting books on the big topics like sleep, and eating, and maybe a catch all first two years what to expect type of book while I was pregnant. Not that I think you can totally plan but I would have liked to know a few of the different approaches to the whole sleep thing and ideas to try BEFORE I was in the throws of extreme sleep deprivation. You think you’ll have time since you’ll be feeding them a lot but if you’re like me you’ll wish you had checked out some books sooner. I ‘d recommend taking a peek at things you think might come up through the first 2 years.
Owlet baby monitor and other tips and tricks people don’t tell new moms.
( photo courtesy of See Kate Sew).
5. You Don’t Have to Be Paranoid of Sleep.
I’ve already mentioned (and if you’ve been around here from a while you KNOW) we got terrible sleep while Teddy was a baby. Every year 3,500 babies while they are asleep, that’s more than 10 times those that die in car accidents. I think almost all moms remember that first time their baby slept through the night mostly because we weren’t asleep ourselves.
I wish that I had an Owlet Baby Monitor when Teddy was an infant. I have a number of friends that have used it lately and I’ve been totally jealous. If you’re not familiar with the device it is the only baby monitor that uses hospital technology– pulse oximetry– designed to alert you if your baby stops breathing. All that amazing technology is placed into a tiny, snuggly baby sock that the little one wears to bed. It’s totally wireless and connects via bluetooth to a base station and Wi-Fi to any smartphone so you can view live vitals. I did not have many opportunities to sleep since my baby was a “bad sleeper”. But even when he did actually sleep I was filled with anxiety that something would happen which made falling asleep (for the short periods that he was down) really hard. I think I would have slept so much better and easier if I had one of these to ease my worries!
6. Swim Diapers Don’t Hold Pee.
I must have just been lucky because I put Teddy in swim diapers on the way to the pool MANY times. That is how they keep from getting heavy in the water. I guess it makes sense in retrospect but really why didn’t someone tell me this!!!? So there I told you.
Random but helpful info about diapers people forget to tell new moms.
( pool time with the cousins, he was SO small).
7. It’s Easy to Mix Up Swim Diapers and Pull Ups.
This is a sillier one but really, why do swim diapers and pull ups have to look SO similar? Color and all. Let me tell you how you can tell the difference when you’re in the water: the diaper will swell to about 10 times the size of normal, get heavy, and the absorbent beads can burst out of the diaper. I’ve been guilty of the mix up and been around to witness more than one other mom who managed to mix up the two diapers. When getting ready to swim you’ll be fine but it’s so easy just to go fast and mix them up, if you pay attention.
8. You Might Want to Hold Off On Some Gifts.
Especially if you receive a lot of newborn sized clothing you will probably be tempted to wash those puppies up and get them all cozy in a drawer but some babies are born too big for new born sizes. You might think you want it before baby is here but once you try it out it might not be your thing.
I totally agree these are really helpful for new parents but for some reason no one things to tell first time moms and dads. Great list.
9. The One Month Mark Is Hard.
Maybe it’s not exactly one month for everyone but there will be a time near the beginning where you think oh my gosh we’ve had this baby for a while now and it’s still SO HARD what is going on. You’ll have less help, if you had people or visitors coming in, or if you or your partner that had baby leave and have to start working again. You’ll just feel like you ought to be able to “do more” or that things should be easier but they aren’t.
10. Decide What You Want Your Hospital Visits to Look Like.
If they happen really slowly) and you are so tired after giving birth and the emotions and hormones are raging, things happen fast (even. I really regret not telling (or having my husband tell) people to get out of the room. I had been up ALL NIGHT birthing a child with a super long pushing periodd and people were around and I could not rest. I just wanted piece and to be able to try to sleep. I felt rude and selfish not to mention totally awkward getting up in my open flap gown all bloody and groggy crossing the room in front of people to go to the bathroom. You know what everyone else could see the baby later. They could peek in for a quick hello but they did not need to be there in those first hours. I wish I had thought through that stuff before I was there and set some ground rules. In addition to the sleep I needed time to figure and try out nursing WITHOUT AN AUDIENCE. Related to the hospital visitors I really regret not taking my photographer friend up on her offer to come do some birth photos. She didn’t push because you know I had just given birth but I wish that I had decided before I went in that was just one of the things we were going to do because in the moment I felt disgusting, exhausted, and the idea of being photographed sounded horrible but now I feel like I really missed out.
funny unsolicited advice meme for moms and 10 things people forget to tell first time moms.
11. You Get to Determine the Type of Parent You Want to Be.
Friends, acquaintances, and random strangers be prepared if you’re not already getting bombarded with unsolicited advice from family. For some reason a pregnant woman or really anyone with an infant is like a magnet for the “experts” to “share” their “advice”. Some might actually be helpful, some might be well meaning, but others will be rude, obnoxious, and flat out wrong. Just remember you are the one who gets to decide how you want to parent. Even if it’s not the same way all your friends and family have chosen it doesn’t matter. Go the way your gut and your own research leads. If anything feels wrong check things out do research and ask them to explain their reasoning, you can even question the doctors and honestly I encourage you to do that. There are SO many ways to parent that helps you keep your children safe and grow into awesome adults don’t feel bullied into one way from other people. And remember you can change your mind and try different things out as you learn and experience more. See what works for you, your family, and this particular baby. Even within the same family different things might work for different kids. And above all make sure you let yourself enjoy your little ones.
Why didn’t anyone tell me these things with my first baby? When they are toddlers and babies things change so fast. For the record I knew this one but I’ve been shocked at the number of people I’ve met who don’t know that balloons are very dangerous to babies and toddlers or who tried to give my baby a balloon but not watch him with it or were about to let him chew and try on one. If you’re not familiar with the device it is the only baby monitor that uses hospital technology– pulse oximetry– designed to alert you if your baby stops breathing. You might think you want it before baby is here but once you try it out it might not be your thing.